Repost: Communication

This blog post by “Daring to live in love! The alternate economy” has some great ideas and guidelines for communication.

Week 8: COMMUNICATION — No blah blah.

Is it kind?

Think: Gossip. Building yourself up at someone else’s expense. Mean-spirited, oppressive put downs. Spreading rumors.

Is it necessary?

‘Unnecessary’ would include: Talking just to hear yourself talk. Trying to always have the last word. Bragging. Meaning to shock others. Self-indulgent blah blah.

Is it true?

Obvious, right? Lying. Misrepresenting. Tearing down your opponent. Demonizing ‘the other’.

Does it improve upon the silence?

There are times when it’s not possible to be better than simply silent: Being ‘present’ to someone dying, or in pain. Holding someone’s confidence. Refraining when in emotional turmoil. Not rising to the bait. Considering: Do I really know what’s best??

True love


Last night, as I was going to bed, I was praying to know how to “love my neighbor” better. 

The answer that came to me is to love my neighbor (and myself) spiritually. 

“In patient obedience to a patient God, let us labor to dissolve with the universal solvent of Love the adamant of error, — self-will, self-justification, and self-love, — which wars against spirituality and is the law of sin and death.” (Eddy, Science and Health, p. 242)

Self-will (or human wilfulness), self-justification (or feeling the need to justify what you are doing perhaps because it isn’t right) and self-love are actually the opposite of Love, divine, true Love. 

A well-known, and probably the best written statement on Love comes from I Corinthians 13:

“If I speak in the tongues of mortals and of angels, but do not have love, I am a noisy gong or a clanging cymbal. And if I have prophetic powers, and understand all mysteries and all knowledge, and if I have all faith, so as to remove mountains, but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away all my possessions, and if I hand over my body so that I may boast, but do not have love, I gain nothing.

 Love is patient; love is kind; love is not envious or boastful or arrogant or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful; it does not rejoice in wrongdoing, but rejoices in the truth. It bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.

 Love never ends. But as for prophecies, they will come to an end; as for tongues, they will cease; as for knowledge, it will come to an end. For we know only in part, and we prophesy only in part; but when the complete comes, the partial will come to an end. When I was a child, I spoke like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child; when I became an adult, I put an end to childish ways. For now we see in a mirror, dimly,but then we will see face to face. Now I know only in part; then I will know fully, even as I have been fully known. And now faith, hope, and love abide, these three; and the greatest of these is love.” (New Revised Standard Version)

I think of this wonderful statement of love as a comparison between self-love (thinking we are the best and indulging our material personality) versus spiritual love, the Love which is God itself. 

We have all felt moved, touched or inspired by Love, I’m sure. Perhaps it was in helping a friend, saying just the right thing that meant so much to someone, or in a healing we had. As we erase the “adamant of error” from our consciousness we become lighter, clearer and a better transparency for divine Love, the love that heals, saves and uplifts. 

Our Relationship With God

Each of us has an unchanging, permanent relationship with God.  God loves us, nurtures and cares for us, and supplies all that we need.  The Bible says, “God is of purer eyes than to behold evil” (KJV, Heb 1:13).  God is pure Spirit, divine Love, who is all intelligence, goodness, and perfection.  God is ever-present and constant in our lives.  In fact, God is our life.  God is Life itself therefore Life is free, infinite, spontaneous, and not bogged down by worry and fear.

Generally, every evil suggestion that comes to our thought is a lie about our relationship with God.  And being aware, or conscious, of this relationship naturally destroys the lie, which dissipates fear with peace and love and an assured sense of harmony.

When we feel our relationship with God, we can’t feel anything else.  We only feel the love, peace, joy and dominion that God is imparting to us each moment.

Mary Baker Eddy describes God as Mother, and coined the phrase Father-Mother as describing God’s whole nature.  She recognized God as Love and thus described God as representing Mother Love that we each know and feel in our hearts.

By constantly communing with this Mother Love in our heart and thoughts throughout the day, we are able to shield any evil suggestion or fear of limitation, ill-health, or lack.

Our relationship with God becomes the most important thing to us, which follows Jesus command “thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength” (Mark 12:30).

The Book of Deuteronomy has many references to this:

“love the Lord thy God, and keep his charge, and his statutes, and his judgments, and his commandments, alway” (Deut 11:1).

“love the Lord thy God, and that thou mayest obey his voice, and that thou mayest cleave unto him: for he is thy life, and the length of thy days” (Deut 30:20).

“I command thee this day to love the Lord thy God, to walk in his ways, and to keep his commandments and his statutes and his judgments, that thou mayest live and multiply: and the Lord thy God shall bless thee in the land whither thou goest to possess it” (Deut 30:16).

This is really a protection and blessing to us.  It keeps us safe because it guards our thought, our life, our motives, and the direction in which we walk.  It in turn blesses everyone around us.  “…All whom your thoughts rest upon are thereby benefited” (Miscellany, Eddy, p. 210).

When we feel secure in our relationship with God we are kept safe, prosperous, fulfilled and satisfied.  Our relationships are effortless and harmonious because we have all the happiness and completeness we need in God.  Our bodies work more concordantly because we recognize God as Life and therefore the source and cause of our health.  And when we are on the pathway with Him/Her we can never be sick or lack what we need.  We have more fulfilling work because we are about our “Father’s business” (Luke 2:49) or our Mother’s business in this case – the business of loving and giving, of expressing our Mother Love.  “…Freely ye have received, freely give” (Matt 10:8).

So let’s start each day with our relationship to God – with our Mother Love – and see how that blesses our day and everyone around us.