This blog post by “Daring to live in love! The alternate economy” has some great ideas and guidelines for communication.
Think: Gossip. Building yourself up at someone else’s expense. Mean-spirited, oppressive put downs. Spreading rumors.
Is it necessary?
‘Unnecessary’ would include: Talking just to hear yourself talk. Trying to always have the last word. Bragging. Meaning to shock others. Self-indulgent blah blah.
Is it true?
Obvious, right? Lying. Misrepresenting. Tearing down your opponent. Demonizing ‘the other’.
Does it improve upon the silence?
There are times when it’s not possible to be better than simply silent: Being ‘present’ to someone dying, or in pain. Holding someone’s confidence. Refraining when in emotional turmoil. Not rising to the bait. Considering: Do I really know what’s best??