Overcoming shyness

I’ve never really been a shy person; I was even called a “social butterfly” in elementary school.  And many people today would be surprised to find that I dealt with shyness.

There came a time when I felt incredibly shy.  I didn’t enjoy it much because I didn’t feel like myself.  So I decided to seek a spiritual solution to this problem as I do with many challenges.

I talked with a Christian Science Practitioner who told me she had dealt with shyness herself.  And through the help of her mother and prayer she was healed of this problem.

This was encouraging.  She shared the idea that shyness is really a type of selfishness because you are thinking about yourself instead of the other person.  She suggested that I try to love everyone around me.

Well I instantly felt a lot better, feeling confident that there was a spiritual solution, and that it was something as enjoyable as loving more.

Over the years I worked on this.  I found cherishing each person’s spiritual identity, and striving to listen to them, to what they’re saying and also to what they are not saying (to what their heart was calling out for) to be a blessing.

When I loved the person I was talking to, the way God feels about them, I was able to listen, be more sensitive, and really enjoy each friendship.

In fact, striving to listen a lot more throughout my day, even when there is only silence around me, enables me to hear God’s voice which tells me who I might bless and leads activities throughout my day.

A teaching of Christian Science is that God is Mind (which Paul refers to in the New Testament).  And because God is all and is good, He or She must be the only real Mind.  This Mind is always clear, uplifted, meek, patient, kind and compassionate.   When I realize that this is the true Mind, then all the other mental “noise” quiets down, and I can listen clearly.

There are still situations that I find uncomfortable, as most humans do.  But sometimes it’s because someone else might be feeling uncomfortable, hostile or unloved.  Being aware of this helps me support each individual in feeling safe, secure, and loved.

It’s a joy to have positive interactions with people and has been such a blessing to me as well as to others.

I’m grateful that there are harmonious solutions to situations like these.  And it can be as simple as opening up to a greater awareness of Divinity and Her spiritual image and likeness – man and woman.

Practical Spirituality Heals

 

Want to learn more about how spirituality is practical in seeing and understanding the reality of things – the reality that includes health, goodness, and abundance for all?

 

Check out this video lecture given in February in the Chicago-area at the Evanston Public Library.  The lecturer is Christian Science practitioner and teacher Ginny Luedeman, CSB from Salem, Oregon .

 

This lecture will be available at the link below through June 24th, 2011.  Enjoy learning about spirituality that heals.

 

http://www.secondchurchevanston.com/lectures.html

Life Lessons and Spiritual Insights Part 2

 

 

Here  is Part 2 – the continuation of life lessons and spiritual insights I’m grateful for. God is always graciously teaching us and showing us the Way!  🙂

 

One of the lessons I learned in school was not to gossip (I only wish I knew this from the get-go – it would have made things a lot easier!). It can be so tempting to join in the criticism or “fun” in a conversation with friends – comparing people to others and labeling their actions in some way.

 

The Bible shows us that God directs our way and actions, and human opinions and beliefs mean nothing to Him (for instance, in a job search or in the path we choose in life).  He shows us that He doesn’t care what popular opinions say in such stories as Moses and the children of Israel, Daniel and the lion’s den, Nehemiah building the wall and countless other examples.  In fact, the Bible is really a compilation of the Spirit of God lifting us out popular beliefs and saying in a way, “I don’t care what’s going on humanly…this is what is really going on and is really going to happen”.

 

We can have the same Spirit today, even if we’re dealing with a physical illness.  Maybe there has been a prediction about our state of being or our future.  God shows us that it doesn’t matter what is going on humanly.  Only what He says and knows counts.  God never created sickness or any debilitating illness for us to be subject to.  Nor can we be harmed from criticism or gossip by another.

 

If we think kindly towards others, any criticism or unkind thought shot toward us falls right off.  “The mental arrow shot from another’s bow is practically harmless, unless our own thought barbs it.”

 

“…We should go forth into life with the smallest expectations, but with the largest patience; with a keen relish for and appreciation of everything beautiful, great, and good, but with a temper so genial that the friction of the world shall not wear upon our sensibilities; with an equanimity so settled that no passing breath nor accidental disturbance shall agitate or ruffle it…” (Taking Offense, Miscellaneous Writings 1883-1896, Eddy)

 

I love this article called “Taking Offense” by Mary Baker Eddy (a spiritual leader, healer and teacher in 1821-1910).  It is such a wonderful reminder that we don’t have to get caught up in the swing of things – all the gossip that is presented, whether it be in our family, neighbor or even in cultures and government  around the world.  We never have to think an unkind or unloving thought toward anyone nor can any reach us – what a freedom this is (keeping our mental atmosphere pure, uplifted and free)!