Overcoming shyness

I’ve never really been a shy person; I was even called a “social butterfly” in elementary school.  And many people today would be surprised to find that I dealt with shyness.

There came a time when I felt incredibly shy.  I didn’t enjoy it much because I didn’t feel like myself.  So I decided to seek a spiritual solution to this problem as I do with many challenges.

I talked with a Christian Science Practitioner who told me she had dealt with shyness herself.  And through the help of her mother and prayer she was healed of this problem.

This was encouraging.  She shared the idea that shyness is really a type of selfishness because you are thinking about yourself instead of the other person.  She suggested that I try to love everyone around me.

Well I instantly felt a lot better, feeling confident that there was a spiritual solution, and that it was something as enjoyable as loving more.

Over the years I worked on this.  I found cherishing each person’s spiritual identity, and striving to listen to them, to what they’re saying and also to what they are not saying (to what their heart was calling out for) to be a blessing.

When I loved the person I was talking to, the way God feels about them, I was able to listen, be more sensitive, and really enjoy each friendship.

In fact, striving to listen a lot more throughout my day, even when there is only silence around me, enables me to hear God’s voice which tells me who I might bless and leads activities throughout my day.

A teaching of Christian Science is that God is Mind (which Paul refers to in the New Testament).  And because God is all and is good, He or She must be the only real Mind.  This Mind is always clear, uplifted, meek, patient, kind and compassionate.   When I realize that this is the true Mind, then all the other mental “noise” quiets down, and I can listen clearly.

There are still situations that I find uncomfortable, as most humans do.  But sometimes it’s because someone else might be feeling uncomfortable, hostile or unloved.  Being aware of this helps me support each individual in feeling safe, secure, and loved.

It’s a joy to have positive interactions with people and has been such a blessing to me as well as to others.

I’m grateful that there are harmonious solutions to situations like these.  And it can be as simple as opening up to a greater awareness of Divinity and Her spiritual image and likeness – man and woman.

Life Lessons and Spiritual Insights

 

I spend a lot of time looking forward or enjoying the present moment, but sometimes I seldom look back at the progress I’ve made and give thanks for the lessons and spiritual growth.

 

This next blog series is going to share these spiritual lessons – metaphysical and practical – that I’ve learned along the way through the challenges and joys in previous years.  Or the “I wish I knew this then” moments.  Many of these were learned in growing up, through teen years and early 20’s.

 

Let’s begin…

 

Love yourself.  Cherish you.  Do not condemn you.  Be nice to you.

 

If you are loving and nice to yourself, you naturally and effortlessly are loving and kind to others.

 

“Blessed (happy, spiritually prosperous) are the merciful, for they shall obtain mercy.” (Matthew 5:7 Amplified edition)

 

Don’t judge others, or compare yourself to them (though I see this is challenging since the world is always saying we have to compete to get somewhere).  Everyone is valuable and equal to God.

 

Keeping your focus on God and what He is seeing enables us all to be blessed.  And what does God see?  “God saw all that he had made, and it was very good” (Genesis 1:28 NIV my emphasis).  This means God saw everyone that He made, each opportunity, as very good.  See the good in everyone, including you, and in every moment.  If you see good in everyone, you will see God.

 

“ Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see God.” (Matthew 5:8 NKJV)

 

Pure motives and thoughts allow us to see Soul, and Soul blesses us, inspires, moves us, and satisfies the longings of your heart.

 

In fact, Jesus has already given us the spiritual answers and practical lessons we need in his Sermon on the Mount.  The Beatitudes, coupled with the rest of the Sermon, are the recipe for healthy, happy relationships, minds and bodies and a secure sense of our finances.

 

Stay tuned for more insights.  And, as always, feel free to be in touch if you need help with any of these.