Reblog: Golden Rule Day (a spiritual perspective on Valentine’s Day)

by Virginia Harris, C.S.B.

Do you remember Valentine’s Day when you were a kid in elementary school? What I remember is coming to school with a brown paper sack filled with valentine cards for everyone in my class, to be placed on each desk at the first recess. No one was left out, everyone received a Valentine – even the kid(s) who I was sure didn’t like me much. But it was the one day I could make a little gesture to be a friend to everyone…so said my mom. Read more

Love, relationships, and being you


Relationships seem pretty complicated sometimes.  How do you meet the right person?  What makes a relationship last when some don’t?


I just listened to this great podcast (the one I mentioned the other day), and I’m so impressed with the wide range of questions it answers.


Some of the issues it addresses are:


How do you find Mr/Miss Right?


How can you stay focused during the excitement of a new relationship, so that you don’t go from bliss to bad traits when the newness wears off?


How do you know if you should marry this person?


How can you stop physical attraction from impairing the higher qualities you want to see expressed in this person?




There was great inspiration shared.  And it certainly answered a lot of questions that I have experienced or have heard before.


I received some of the best relationship advice I’ve ever heard in a time of great need.  It was short and sweet: “Just be you, you’re great.”


What did this advice mean to me?  Well I was having a hard time hearing/knowing what God was saying.  Is this relationship going to continue, etc?


When I got this advice, I realized I felt like I had to change to be in this relationship.  And, even worse, that maybe God wanted me to change.  But when I received this rich inspiration, I immediately saw that who I am is ok, and is in fact great (it’s who God made me to be), and that I should stick to being myself and trust in that.


Well it was clear to me that the relationship couldn’t continue and I felt peaceful and happy about breaking it off.


This guidance has stuck with me to this day and I still think of it when I’m in a meeting, giving a presentation or in various relationships.


And when I did meet my husband, I felt absolutely comfortable around him; I felt like myself, could be myself, and realized he enriches who I am.  This is something I have loved and appreciated.


So, I hope you enjoy this great podcast, stay true to yourself in your relationships, and that the ideas in this blog and podcast bless you in many ways.




Celebrate love that is all around us


I’m enjoying spiritual resources on love, companionship and marriage  in celebration of Valentine’s Day.

And I appreciate the cards and Facebook status’ I’ve seen, which show that today is more than a romantic holiday, but really an opportunity to celebrate the love that is around us all the time.

One person on Facebook wrote “enjoy all whom you love and realize their love comes from God.”  Folks are enjoying dinner with families and I’ve appreciated Valentine’s Day cards from church and family members.


The Bible says that “God is love” (in fact, John 4 is pretty much a chapter on love), and when we see that there isn’t love that is separate from Him, then we know that love has to be honest, just and pure.  Perhaps you are dealing with a false sense of love – a relationship that includes dependency, insecurity or violence.  We never have to earn love; it is freely given to us by God.  God loves us unconditionally, abundantly and provides us with that which is pure and good.  God is our real Mother and Father who is giving us infinite blessings including companionship.

It’s interesting that the first two “great commandments” both include love: to love the Lord with all your heart, soul, and mind and to love your neighbor as yourself (Matthew 22).  You might say this is a true Valentine’s Day wish! 🙂


And, of course, I Corinthians 13 is a great description of what real love is and what it does (not the Hollywood kind) and is worth a perusal.


Here are some spiritual articles and resources I’m enjoying.


A ‘union of hearts’—where harmony in marriage blooms by Kevin Graunke offers insights on how to value your home and spouse.  The author refers to Paul’s statement in the Bible “be constantly renewed in the spirit of your mind [having a fresh mental and spiritual attitude], and put on the new nature (the regenerate self) created in God’s image, [Godlike] in true righteousness and holiness” (Eph. 4:22-24, Amplified Bible).


In addition, there is an audio chat tonight with two people who prayed about marriage before they met.  There will be a diverse range of ideas about being single, dealing with pressures from family or friends to be married, meeting the “right” one, and being married.  Listen in and/or ask a question!


This is a live event at 9pm EST (8pm CST, 7pm MST, 6pm PST), and you can join here.  If you can’t make it tonight, it will be archived and you will be able to replay it in a couple of days.



I hope you will feel love that is filling all space — spiritual, divine Love; the  love that is enduring, eternal and unconditional.  We are the expression of this Love.


Happy Valentine’s Day!